How to be charismatic

Well, depending what kind of friends or guyz you want to attract, I want to share with you some of my findings:

1. Dont try to be pretty or sexy - 

Many guyz luv sexy galz, but then I believe smart guyz dont look at galz who wear low cut or just less. Though, indeed LESS is MORE. But sometimes I find galz trying to radiate the aura to everyone that I AM PRETTY - good way to see it is self-confident, yet when you cant balance it, you become like - not attractive. Always Always be yourself - as this is an eternal sexiness in it.

2. Dont just talk to the guyz, always talk to the galz around U

It's a mistake of many galz. I see it DAILY. They have this cat-fight spirit in them. Honestly, I have none. I always opt to talk to the bitchy galz (who usually are the targets of cat-fights) or arrogant guyz. Somehow, they just need to wear a facemask to protect themseleves, maybe I like the challenge, once I could tap it open - they usually become my great frenz. Maybe ie why I am so adored by both guyz N galz.

3. Similar as above points - dont be DESPERATE

U know, actually people could see your desperacy, no one is a great actor anyways. For me, since I got good training in my mind & body language, also I am indeed not very desperate at all to for e.g. get married or get laid (of coz I would slip sometimes if I indeed meet some cute guyz) - I know guyz or galz tend to enjoy talking to me once I could break the ice. As I cant help it, I dont look very friendly since young, but people usually find me non-threatening. But if you are indeed desperate, try to stay abit aloof with an indifferent smile but not arrogant attitude.

4. Proactive as a communicator

Actually, a good Q will give a long-lasting good impression on someone. This sparks hours of great topics. If you are not good, train yourself. As I used to be a bad one, but since I am a very curious person about many things, I ask always many Qs. As well, dont be shy to speak up your mind, Yes indeed sometimes it backs fire by speaking own mind, but there's always way to refine a truthful comment - think alittle before you speak (I am not 100% great on this). Be willing to open your mouth & your thoughts, pple will be more willing to talk the heaven & hell with you.

My best fren Leo is super good at this.

4. Be an attentive listener

This is something 90% people are bad at. When I was in teen, my great teacher taught me to listen. So I listened.......attentively always (not as diligent now), but when you indeed listen well, you could hear the truth or lies in someone's choice of vocabulary & their hearts. And stay open, even if that person lies, dont judge them. It doesnt really matter, as we should stay as unbiased as possible.

5. Be interactive

Combined both no3 & no4. Dont just ask Q, or talk or purely listens. Always give good feedback, not the uh, yea, uh huh.....kinda feedback, but feedback with some wise comments or intelligent jokes or maybe just a truthful sympathy.

6.Dont use "should" word too much

I used to use it alot when I was in teen as I got this very black & white in my head. I luv correcting pple. But believe me, no one likes to be should-ed. I dont like it either. I think most pple know they shouldnt do certain things...anyhows.

7. Involve others

Guess it's something quite difficult for galz to do it at times. Maybe asian as well. They like their own secure cluster gang. But well, dont be, it's totally not sexy! Include others in a conversation in a graceful way - it would turn both galz & guyz on towards you!

8.Never tell others you had worse pain or situation than them

I find it's like a disease. People so want to identify with you that they would say they are worse than you. As I said in another entry, pain can never be compared. Suffering is one's own private sense, which no one can be more or can understand it fully. Hence, be nice, dont say that again!

9. Stay super open-minded

Everyone has some secrets, some darkside. I do, I hv alotta dark sides, not so much with secrets though. Embrace pple's choices or philosophy of life. But dont expect others to embrace yours. Seriously, if you get it, it means you have bigger grace & heart to accept others, then why the needs to expect others to do likewise?

10. I let you tell me some of the ways to stay charm....:)

Snap Movie

Not Snapshots, but snap movie.

After re-watching Reality Bites, I really wanted to start doing a Snap Movie about people around me. I started doing it during CNY and I realize, all I took was the funny ones. Hilariously funny ones. As the only thing I could hear was my laughters. So, I will try to learn how to cut & paste into a super hilarious movie of my Wabbit CNY.

But, still, I want to make a snap movie about something deeper. Actually, I am not sure if my frenz would be willing to do, but well, issues I want to be in it would be:

1. What is your true sexuality?
Pure straight or pure gay or you actually do have some inclination to bi?
2. The wildest things U ever done?
3. What's a smile to you?
4. You ever think of suicide? What wud be the ways to do it?
5. If you could speak to Bruce Lee, what would you want to ask him & tell him?
6. Why are you afraid of ghosts?
7. Why are you sometimes afraid of yourself?
8. If you could publish a book, what wud be the title? What are you gonna write about?
9. Give me 5 words to describe yourself and 8 sentences to describe your spouse/partner/gf/bf.
10. If you win 50Mil HKD lottery, how are you going to spend it, for real?

Others:
1. What's your philosophy?
2. What would you name your babies or your business?
3. Why are you so dull? And when are you dull?
4. Do you believe in Aliens? What do you think they look like?
5. Where do you think U came from? I meant, which part of galaxy?

extra:
1. What position do you like in bed?
2. What kind of jobs you wouldnt do in bed or with your partner?
3. What are your true fantasies?
4. If you fell for someone at Alaska, would you fly there to meet him or her for 3 nites?
5. What is your size?

Ummm....guess you could choose 5 Qs to answer.....hope U will be willing to do for me when I ask....hehe. Actually, I could very much answer most of the above Qs at any given time......hehhehehehehe

I have a crush

I just know this crush has been a while. hehe.

I think he has some kind of artist vibe in him where I got intrigued. He's abit aloof to many things, yet, he's a super gentleman. That triples his sexiness. I just had a dream of him..........we were doing some daily stuff. I told him the reasons why I did certain things before and he was smiling secretly. The whole scene was very sweet.

Ar, I know, you guyz would say "GO FOR IT, GAL"
But no, I am too crazy for him. haha..............but I luv this feeling of "crush", inflatuation.

WHAT THE HELL

Though I got no particular person to sing to, this songs is like me singing to the whole world. hahahaa.

You say that I’m messing with your head (yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah)
All ’cause I was making out with your friend (yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah)
Love hurts whether it’s right or wrong (yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah)
I can’t stop ’cause I’m having too much time (yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah)
You’re on your knees
Begging please
Stay with me
But honestly
I just need to be a little crazy
All my life I’ve been good but now, I-I-I-I-I’m thinking what the hell
All I want is to mess around and I-I-I-I-I don’t really care about
If you love me, if you hate me, you can’t save me, baby, baby
All my life I’ve been good but now, whoa-oh-oh-oh-oh-a, what the hell
What… what… what… What the hell?
So what if I go out on a million dates (yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah)
You never call or listen to me anyway (yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah)
I rather rage than sit around and wait all day (yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah)
Don’t get me wrong. I just need some time to play-ay (yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah)
You’re on your knees
Begging please
Stay with me
But honestly
I just need to be a little crazy
All my life I’ve been good but now, I-I-I-I-I’m thinking what the hell
All I want is to mess around and I-I-I-I-I don’t really care about
If you love me, if you hate me
You can save me, baby, baby
All my life I’ve been good but now, whoa-oh-oh-oh-oh-a, what the hell
La la la la la la la la… Woah… Woah…
La la la la la la la la… Woah… Woah…
You say that I’m messing with your head
Boy, I like messing in your bed
Yeah, I am messing with your head
When I’m messing with you in bed
All my life I’ve been good but now, I-I-I-I-I’m thinking what the hell (what the hell)
All I want is to mess around and I-I-I-I-I don’t really care about (I don’t care about)
All my life I’ve been good but now, I-I-I-I-I’m thinking what the hell
All I want is to mess around and I-I-I-I-I don’t really care about (if you love me)
If you love me (no), if you hate me (no)
You can save me, baby, baby (if you love me)
All my life I’ve been good but now, whoa-oh-oh-oh-oh-a, what the hell.
La la, La la la la la la, La la, La la la la la la la

CNY eve

Well, I met a bunch of frenz again, though I couldnt remember a single name last nite. I had drinks, "scunt" (dunno how to spell) - and we kept laughing. I remember I kept laughing, as all of us were so relax, happy being around with each other. Indeed the flowers at flower market after 4am were super cheap, my frenz bought the big Tao Fa (luv+luck flower) was like $50 or $80. It's cheaper than my waffles I got at the food store there!!!

As for me, I didnt buy any. I dun want any baggages, whereby if you got one branch, according to the tradition, you have to get one for every year upto the 3rd year. This is a committment I couldnt keep.

I took some vid of some hilarious moments. This morning, I re-watched that, I still couldnt stop laughing. This is what I call the BEST CNY EVER!!!

Wabbit Wabiit

Thanks Leo for combining Wild Rabbit to WABBIT.
I luv it, Wabbit Wabbit.

First thing in the morning, I was lazing in my bed, checked my iphone emails...........BING! The asshole is fuckingly gone! The shitty asshole made my life hell in 2010. He basically delayed all my contracts (that wud reap money) last year, and I lost my clients........and had a hellful 2010. Now, on the day of CNY, what's the sign?????? ie my 2011 is gonna be FREAKING AWESOME,. My WABBIT year is gonna be bubbly with joy & bubbling wine!!! Yey, yay yai!!!!!!!!!!

I couldnt control this high!!! The real DAWN is back!

UPSET

Someone upsets me. >_<

WAHAHAHAHAHAHA

WAHAHAHAHAHA!
WAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
WAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

I cant help but keep LAUGHING!!!
WAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!

YIU, again????

On Facebook, I saw the below - which kinda translates:
Everyone's phonebook has a number that you would never call and as well would never delete. Everyone has someone in his/her heart that you would never forget.


"每個人的電話簿，都會有一個你永遠不會打，也永遠不會刪的號碼；每個人的心裡，都會有一個你永遠不會提，也永遠不會忘的人..."

My god, sorry, maybe I shudnt hv read that but I dont get it why pple always say such things. For me, I dont hv someone like that in my life. Is it coz I am abnormal or just coz I am cold-blooded? The only number I wud keep N wudnt want to call EVER is 999. :)

This kinda messages are there to instill over-indulgence in depression!

This CNY

I find this CNY in HK very odd. 

Maybe coz there's no good or bad news. Everyone on the streets seems pretty calm N cool. Except, in CWB, basically you see 70% are from Mainland china. I go in stores, sales are not even pushing for sale. 

Everyone neither smiles nor frowns. It's weird.

Maybe somehow I live in my own world, this is how I feel hence project to the outside world. Yet, I dun seem to hear my frenz telling me their plans during this time. Or maybe I am not following the news close enough. Or maybe everyone, almost everyone has a job but the % raise is so-so, yet they think at least it's not reducing.

I go around, people are shopping but their faces are kind of emotionless & blank. I know crazy shoppers' look, but I didnt see them today..........

Also, I really didnt hear pple laughing, except when I told my fren many jokes, which as usual she laughed........and those jokes that happened to me are always quite hilarious......but me & her laughs were the only laughing I heard the whole day.

It's just weird.

A Yummi Guy told me.....

that I should keep my eyes open as the One may be out there.

"Pondering"

I always thought only galz talk about the one. I didnt know a guy would. kakakaka

Actually, I dun think I ever talked about the one. Man, nowadays men are sweeter than me!

Actually, when I was in teen, I knew I was always weird & outerspacey , or simply a ET gal, hence I always thought THE ONE would be from another space or maybe somewhere..........out there........far far away..........and I believed I would meet him. Then, one r/p after another, or one fling after another..............my vision of the one has dissolved to a mustard seed. I never really think about it anymore as I dun even know what's the definition. I need definition for many things so I am quite a curious person as I constantly look for "definition", guess it ties in with my major background.

To be honest, I gave up the idea of finding the one, as I doubt any men could stand me or accept my craziness. Anyways, but since it's spoken by a Yummi Guy, I would listen. Maybe I just need to open my eyes a little, understand myself a little...............guess he means it's hopeful somewhere somehow. :) Thanks sweetie.

While, people sometimes talk about soulmates. Actually, I dun un the term. To me, I dont believe in one soulmate. I think usually some horny guyz would say, I want to become your soulmate. HUH!!!?? How to be come someone's soulmate when supposedly I guess soulmate is just is. They are so idiotic.

Let me try to explain my definition that I just thought of about soulmate. See whether it makes sense.

I believe soulmate = your soul's mateS (HAHAHHA), hence it should be similar, it should be familiar, it should be harmonious, it should be recognizable, it should be likeable, it should be enjoyable, it should be......some parts of U like a mirror. Hence, I dont believe there would be one soulmate on this earth for me, but I believe in collective soulmates for me. My frenz who may be reading this could very well be part of me. And I jump to think - it may have something to do with energy, aura or chemistry. Ummm.................

OK, nough said. Abit tired from talking, writing & thinking.............

Have a great weekend. luv Luv LUV.

Purple Hoodie

It seems this week I am so stimulated, I couldnt shut my mouth. So I keep talking. I luv the stimulation. It's excruciating AWESOME!!

OK, purple hoodie.

I sometimes will just go out with purple hoodie if I dont bother to wear makeup or something. And strangers would ask me if I am still a student?! Wow, a hoodie does the trick, no wonder I luv hoodiessssss.

Today, I just really relaxed myself. Did a facial which I had a course for at least over a year but went there less than 3 times. The last time I went was in Aug.........Man, I am super lazy.

Then rarely I wud take the mini-bus from there back to CWB, but this time I thought I would just try. At the stop, I asked the lady if it was the right place to take the green minibus. She smilingly told me yes. OK, when we reached CWB, somehow we went to the same small restaurant called Hokkaido Milk Restaurant at Sun Wui Road, we sat on the same table, not plan to..anyways. So she started talking to me. We talked about from my business (she might refer me to someone), to how to raise kids, to HK generation issues within the span of one set of meal............There, she told me she studied MBA 30 yrs ago, but she decided to be a mother, rather than a career woman.

I am amazed & thankful to have a chat with her. It's so sweet to spend time with a stranger talking about life.

I am so BLESSED. HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY!!!

vulnerable

This morning, I woke up. Hadnt done that long time, lying in bed pondering.

Well, one of my 2011 goals is not lying in bed so much, which I actually managed it quite well. The whole Jan, I didnt, except when I was sick.

I have this feeling of vulnerability. Actually, I am quite vulnerable (not in a bad way) - it's like I dont think anyone or anything can hurt me. But today, I feel I might get burnt one day. I dunno.....I believe in subconsience. I get that quite alot. So what I need to do now is to mentally prepare when it happens. And I will continue to do what I feel good to do N not afraid of the potential danger.

Yet, another side of vulnerability is bad. I feel inconfident. I am fearful of Feb, Mar....I am not sure how I am going thru these 2 months. I am scared of many proposals I am supposed to do, but no where to start.......this insecurity is going to grip in me for a while, I believe. Hopefully, I can hear more good news after the CNY.

It's a constant battle......but anyhow, maybe its end of Jan, Jan has been fantastic. I couldnt thank enough for all the good things, good people that have surfaced in my life.

Stay Cheerio, Hong Kong Babies.

I do give a shit!

I met a guy at a business group tonite. He kept saying "I DUN GIVE A SHIT". Actually, honestly, if for certain frame of topics, you say I DUN GIVE A SHIT once- it sounds cool, it sounds tough, it sounds U got a point. But when you hit the 3rd time about the same scenario, it means U do GIVE a FUCKING shit. I had a moment of hidden "eye rolling" - I wanted to say to him, SHUT your FUCKING mouth, man!!!!


U know, to be frank, I actually give it a shit about many things. I give a shit about my frenz, as they are my dearest assets. I give a shit about my dogs as they are important to me. I give a shit about my work as they make me have a better life. I give a shit about my family as they are my blood. I give a shit about myself as no one wud actually care to give a shit anyways.

It's different from I dont care what other people say. Dont give it a shit is a giving up status to me. I think he shud go & kill himself, as indeed if he doesnt give a fucking shit. As shits accumulated will end up death from over-toxicated!

I luv giving shits, simple. hehe. :)

Something Happy!

I just got a call from this SH company and they may want me to help them with something simple in HK. We talked about working together on a project some 18 mths back, and now it's my 1st step to take on a new project with them. Not something big, actually it's something so simple that I am super overqualified, but then its good sign as it may lead to others.

And hey these pple r starting to call me back, hehe, happy day!

My secret rainbow

My aunt posted this on Facebook and it reminded me I luv this song, so I am gonna post here to share with you! I like the english version mentioning something "my secret rainbow" - actually I had my secret moon & rainbow as well when I was in 20's. Esp walking back home from the library in the dark in Melb - I always talked to my secret moon. hehe.

Hope U like this song as well. Madarin version is my fav. Lyrics....super. If you cant read chinese, one day I will explain it to you, if you want. :)

歌名：歲月輕狂
歌手：李治廷

作曲：盧冠廷
填詞：羅啟銳
編曲／監製：Henry Lai

水一般的少年 風一般的歌
夢一般的遐想 從前的你和我

手一揮就再見 咀一翹就笑
腳一動就踏前 從前的少年

呀 漫天的回響 放眼看 歲月輕狂
呀 歲月輕狂

起風的日子流洒奔放 細雨飄飄心晴朗
雲上去 雲上看 雲上走一趟
青春的黑夜挑燈流浪 青春的愛情不回望
不回想 不回答 不回憶 不回眸 反正也不回頭

呀 漫天的回響 放眼看 歲月輕狂
呀 歲月輕狂

起風的日子流洒奔放 細雨飄飄心晴朗
雲上去 雲上看 雲上走一趟
青春的黑夜挑燈流浪 青春的愛情不回望
不回想 不回答 不回憶 不回眸 回不了頭...

ReConnect

Ar, U guyz maybe reading about yourselves by now, as yes I am writing about you!!

I am quite happy these few days as I manage to "recollect " with few friends that we have known for years out of some funny circumstances. Yet, we dont feel like strangers, and actually our topics are pretty open and smooth. You know how hard it is to reconnect with pple you once connected with then drifted apart......I suppose it's good that they are not married.

I find married frenz will be abit hard to reconnect if somehow we got drifted apart as they would be indeed living in a different warzone than us. I so enjoy the chatting or emailing to bullshits stuff that most likely we wouldnt remember the next day, yet the feeling was so good. Umm, stay close, dont drift apart no more. Be there for me & with me when I want to drink, write &....do some fun. hehe

Nite Nite, sleepy now!

remedy for an obsession

Lately, I am obsessed with something.....
I started thinking, what would be the killer switch to an obsession.
Simple, another obsession.
But when an obsession cannot be replaced, then?
U become an addict.

I have this killer switch inside that I could kill a feeling if I want to.
It used to take me few months.
Now, maybe days to weeks, depending on the intensity.
I am not sure if it's good but the training has been intense, and I am doing it quite well.
Esp, I know I would turn addict on this obsession.

But then, I already find two substitute obsession to replace that one obsession.
hehe, I should be fine!

Ummm, of coz I am not talking about drugs, Apart from pot, alcohol, I dun take others....not yet try anyways. Esp I am usually natural high.

6 namecards

If each namecard represents 1Mil, I still couldnt buy a decent flat in TaiKooShing. I meant the rooftop.....or could I? OK, this is my target, each namecard will give me 1Mil. I am going to have 2 more new namecards. I wonder if any card holder could allow me that amount, esp the no is going to keep growing in times to come.

People collect stamps or credit cards, I collect namecards. :D

Ex in my dream

I was very bothered by that. Actually he showed up in my dreams very very often and everytime I got up I was very angry, more angry than b4. 

When he was in my dreams, he would never be the main character. He would be passenger A,B or C. And everytime he walked abit near me, I would show my contempt & try to walk away. Yet, I do not want a bad person to show up in my dreams that often. I am glad I dun hv a killer instinct, if not, I would find some ways to stap him & melt him with hydrochloric acid, then with Sodium hydroxide - kinda make it neutral to a point of nothingness. haha.

So one day I went to this new fren I met, she owns a bar. We started talking about many things, then dropped the topic on our ex. She had a horrible ex, incld her ex'wife N son. They collaborated to lie together to her. It's horrible - if it's me, I wouldnt know if I wud ever recover from it. We are pretty baffled by the fact that they would be around us, like stuck in our conscience. We actually have become very angry with ourselves.

We came up a solution, we should forgive them.

OK, so I got home, thought about it for 2 days. I couldnt find a way to forgive him. It's impossible for me to go to him and said, hey asshole, I forgave u. Nah..............so I got a lightning strike while I was picking up my dog's poopoo. hehe. No, I should forgive myself. Not forgiving him. I am angry not becoz of him, but becoz of the fact that I was so stupid. I hated my idotic compassion & stupid kindness towards someone didnt deserve it.

And these 2 weeks, I could tell you I feel more relieved, as I didnt blame on my past foolish acts no more. I am looking ahead, like the past is just simply past. The feeling is good, maybe you should try it sometimes.