How to be charismatic

Well, depending what kind of friends or guyz you want to attract, I want to share with you some of my findings:

1. Dont try to be pretty or sexy - 

Many guyz luv sexy galz, but then I believe smart guyz dont look at galz who wear low cut or just less. Though, indeed LESS is MORE. But sometimes I find galz trying to radiate the aura to everyone that I AM PRETTY - good way to see it is self-confident, yet when you cant balance it, you become like - not attractive. Always Always be yourself - as this is an eternal sexiness in it.

2. Dont just talk to the guyz, always talk to the galz around U

It's a mistake of many galz. I see it DAILY. They have this cat-fight spirit in them. Honestly, I have none. I always opt to talk to the bitchy galz (who usually are the targets of cat-fights) or arrogant guyz. Somehow, they just need to wear a facemask to protect themseleves, maybe I like the challenge, once I could tap it open - they usually become my great frenz. Maybe ie why I am so adored by both guyz N galz.

3. Similar as above points - dont be DESPERATE

U know, actually people could see your desperacy, no one is a great actor anyways. For me, since I got good training in my mind & body language, also I am indeed not very desperate at all to for e.g. get married or get laid (of coz I would slip sometimes if I indeed meet some cute guyz) - I know guyz or galz tend to enjoy talking to me once I could break the ice. As I cant help it, I dont look very friendly since young, but people usually find me non-threatening. But if you are indeed desperate, try to stay abit aloof with an indifferent smile but not arrogant attitude.

4. Proactive as a communicator

Actually, a good Q will give a long-lasting good impression on someone. This sparks hours of great topics. If you are not good, train yourself. As I used to be a bad one, but since I am a very curious person about many things, I ask always many Qs. As well, dont be shy to speak up your mind, Yes indeed sometimes it backs fire by speaking own mind, but there's always way to refine a truthful comment - think alittle before you speak (I am not 100% great on this). Be willing to open your mouth & your thoughts, pple will be more willing to talk the heaven & hell with you.

My best fren Leo is super good at this.

4. Be an attentive listener

This is something 90% people are bad at. When I was in teen, my great teacher taught me to listen. So I listened.......attentively always (not as diligent now), but when you indeed listen well, you could hear the truth or lies in someone's choice of vocabulary & their hearts. And stay open, even if that person lies, dont judge them. It doesnt really matter, as we should stay as unbiased as possible.

5. Be interactive

Combined both no3 & no4. Dont just ask Q, or talk or purely listens. Always give good feedback, not the uh, yea, uh huh.....kinda feedback, but feedback with some wise comments or intelligent jokes or maybe just a truthful sympathy.

6.Dont use "should" word too much

I used to use it alot when I was in teen as I got this very black & white in my head. I luv correcting pple. But believe me, no one likes to be should-ed. I dont like it either. I think most pple know they shouldnt do certain things...anyhows.

7. Involve others

Guess it's something quite difficult for galz to do it at times. Maybe asian as well. They like their own secure cluster gang. But well, dont be, it's totally not sexy! Include others in a conversation in a graceful way - it would turn both galz & guyz on towards you!

8.Never tell others you had worse pain or situation than them

I find it's like a disease. People so want to identify with you that they would say they are worse than you. As I said in another entry, pain can never be compared. Suffering is one's own private sense, which no one can be more or can understand it fully. Hence, be nice, dont say that again!

9. Stay super open-minded

Everyone has some secrets, some darkside. I do, I hv alotta dark sides, not so much with secrets though. Embrace pple's choices or philosophy of life. But dont expect others to embrace yours. Seriously, if you get it, it means you have bigger grace & heart to accept others, then why the needs to expect others to do likewise?

10. I let you tell me some of the ways to stay charm....:)