When you dad may threaten to hurt your mom or your family.....becoz of.....no reasons? Just he created stories in his head that made him mad. Tell me, what would you do?
My utmost concern would be my sis kids, as my mom takes care of them. Seriously, if I would be their parents, I would move the house as far from this family as possible. How could your dad threaten to hurt his family without any solid reasons.....??? Just coz he's not pleased with his life?!?!?!
My sis suggested we should report to police. But for me, I guess most of the time he just talked. So I advised my mom not to see him for coming days without our presence. And I will have dinner with him on Tue, not that I try to talk some sense into him. When someone creates a reality in his mind, no one can correct that imagination. I guess I would want to see abit from his expression, his conversation - the words he chooses to express himself, his way looking at my mom & my sis kids.......then will decide what's our potential next move!!!
I dont get it, when all of us are trying to get everyone living slightly better, and when we are all more united as a family, more laughters with each other, why would he try to sabotage that!? Yet in our mind (esp my sis n me), we couldnt comprehend a person we have known for over 30 odd years would become someone we so.....feel alienated. What so huge to make you verbally inform your kid that, wait for something big to happen!!!???? While, already inform you that he killed mom in his dreams. What's the big deal? What happened??? We scratched our heads till no hair, we still couldnt think of a single or remotely collective issues why........we are deserved to be threatened like that!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe it's indeed just the smiple saying......money is evil?! I dont know......this is not how my dad used to raise me.
sorry to hear about such crap.....
ReplyDeleteperhaps you don't need to try too hard to find out the trigger/ reason behind his words - emotional people by nature aren't logical, and you can't really put yourself in the shoes of someone emotional to try and think like them.
for the time being, just avoid provoking him at all cost. he may be wanting attention through threatening you all. see what you can do to calm him down like calming a child down perhaps? i don't know.....
take care. i'm always around if you need to 'sun'
Well, I am "coaching" my mom not to provoke him. For now, we just observe.
ReplyDeleteThere's no way to talk sense into a person with such imaginative universe, which I believe I inherited from him, yet, I just live in my own universe, but not drawing people into it.
Sigh, truely there are many such people around....